I'm very excited to announce that starting in December I will be contributing articles to StepMom Magazine! StepMom Magazine is a must read for any stepmoms out there learning how to navigate their way through stepfamilyhood.
My articles will be about crafting and cooking with the kids. Perfect for me! Those are the two biggest most important things that I do with my stepkids that help us bond. The kids are excited too, they think it is way cool that their stepmom is going to be writing for a real magazine.
The biggest challenge is going to be narrowing down to one the craft and recipe to submit! December is the holiday issue so of course we are going with the holiday theme. At our house we love to decorate for the holidays and make fun foods. This is like an excuse for us to have even more fun and kick our creative up a notch!
How can you call yourself a "STEPMOM", when you are not married to the childrens father???????
ReplyDeleteShould I not act and treat the children like a stepmom should just because I am not legally married to their father? Their dad and I were both married before and feel no rush to make our union "official" in the eyes of the law. I have a friend who's parents never bothered to get married. Does that make them any less of a family?
DeleteNot everyone will understand or approve, but that is okay. Those people's opinions don't really matter. The only thing that matters is that my family is happy and stable.
Stepmoms can also be women functioning as a stepmom- Which usually means live-in girlfriends or fiances, but not always. I've also seen the same for stepdads. If you are a caretaker to young children especially, the kids themselves consider you a parent before the/a marriage
DeletePeople who have children together are parents regardless of marital status. You can not make it "official" until your boyfriend agrees to divorce his wife.
ReplyDeleteMy definition of "official" is a state of reality. Your's seems to be a piece of paper.
DeleteMy boyfriend has agreed to divorce her but she doesn't really seem ready to let go. I can't blame her though, he is a pretty awesome guy.
Is that what he tells you? I would peel back that onion a little. Once you do, I am sure you wouldn't use the terms, pretty awesome guy anymore ;-)
DeleteI assure you I know him better than you do. You clearly have a bone to pick with someone. I deleted this comment the first two times you posted it but you seem insistent on putting my man down. Please stop attacking my family and go take care of your own.
DeleteHoly moley, is this the same person? Ashley, do you have some sort of stalker out there?
ReplyDeleteDear Stalker,
Ashley is an awesome, energetic, strong, passionate - not to mention - beautiful person and I am proud to call her a friend. Being a stepmom - or potential stepmom - is challenging and can be extremely trying, especially when certain variables are very unfavorable and/or uncooperative. She handles all hurdles with love, grace and patience and I deeply admire her.
With that said, GO ASHLEY! How exciting that you'll be contributing to Stepmom Magazine! I absolutely love the articles which are so invaluable, especially when things are difficult at home. I look forward to reading your contributions in the December issue! Woo-hoo! :)
Divorce in the state of California can take years. Especially if there are disagreements about custody or financial issues. Life doesn't stop because a divorce is held up in the courts. Life moves on, people fall in love, and people bond with the kids in their new families.
ReplyDeleteI think you are doing the right thing. Those kids need your love and support, they shouldn't have to wait until a judge puts a stamp on the divorce papers.